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Mary DETTLING Obituary

Passed peacefully on 8 January 2026 at home in Stratford, aged 72. Wife of 52 years to Albert. Mother and mother-in-law to Brian & Anne, Patrick and Jo, Craig & Rachael, Shaun, Gareth & Marie, Darren & Nathan and Roger & Sam. Nana to Clara, Koen, Tabitha, Hayden, Madison, Charlotte, Tyler, Taylor, Ava, Eveline, Henry, Lilly & Ryan. All messages to Mary's family can be sent to C/- PO Box, 218, Stratford 4352. Rosary will be prayed on Wednesday 14th, at 6.00pm, at Immaculate Conception. A requiem mass for Mary will be held at the Catholic Church of the Immaculate Conception, Miranda Street, Stratford on Thursday 15th January 2026 at 11.00am, followed by her burial at Kopuatama Cemetery. For those unable to attend you may view the livestream at www.briandarthfunerals.co.nz.


Published by Taranaki Daily News from Jan. 10 to Jan. 14, 2026.

Memories and Condolences
for Mary DETTLING

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Rob Harding

January 17, 2026

Deepest sympathy to Albert and the Dettling family at this sad time. Robin and Chris Harding Whangarei

Colm and Gaynor Tierney

January 17, 2026

Our condolences to Albert and all the Dettling family.
I will always remember Mary with a smile on her face, always happy and willing to give a hand whenever our family needed it.
Mary and Albert done a lot of catering for us over the years my 21st birthday being one I'll always remember.
You will be greatly missed by everyone who knew you .
Sorry we couldn't be there for the funeral, sending our love and blessings from afar.
Colm ,Gaynor and kids Tierney

Richard & Lynley Wagner

January 16, 2026

Dear Albert and family
Please accept our deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved Mary. We are sorry to have missed the funeral.
Richard & Lynley Wagner from the Taranaki Swiss Club

Joy Hosking

January 15, 2026

Our deepest sympathy to the Dettling and Kowalewski families in their sad passing of Mary.
Thinking of you all just now.
Keith and Joy Hosking

Colleen Burr

January 15, 2026

I am saddened to hear of your loss. My condolences to Albert and family.

Alana, Aidan & Roselin Tierney

January 15, 2026

Mary will be remembered as an incredible loving lady that our family had the absolute privilege of knowing

To Albert & all of the Dettling & Kowalewski families, we send you our deepest condolences.

I will never forget the incredible support Mary & Albert were to our family after our Mum, myself & my three younger siblings were badly injured in a car accident at Midhurst many years ago. Mary never stopped loving on us all even with her own busy family - her 7 boys & Albert whom she adored - & farm to care for as well.

An absolute power house of a woman, Mary´s legacy will grow on forever strong. On behalf of my parent´s Aidan & Roselin & our family, all our love & prayers. We will treasure forever our fond memories of Mary

Cecelia Stachurski

January 15, 2026

My prayers and sympathy to Albert and families on your sad loss of dear Mary, I worked with her when she was doing the Kovaleski family tree books, She was a remarkable lady and very much loved, So sorry I was not able to make her funeral, will always have lovely memories of her R.I.P.

Maryanne Butler

January 15, 2026

We were cousins via the Butler family so sad to hear you had been ill Mary you were a special, loving and caring person. RIP.
Maryanne

Heidi Nolly

January 15, 2026

Deepest sympathies to Albie and family. Mary was a lovely woman, always willing to help out others. Rest in Peace.

Isabel

January 15, 2026

Condolences to the family

Richard & Lynley

January 15, 2026

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Jill Meyer and family

January 15, 2026

So very sad to hear of Mary's passing. Our prayers are with you Albert and family.

Stratford A&P Assn

January 15, 2026

Mary, remembered for being long term supporter. Our thoughts go out to Albert and family.

Burkhart

January 15, 2026

Condolences to Albert and family
We will miss Mary's posts of her garden and the mountain
Mary will be dearly missed
Bernie and Donna Burkhart

Lynne Robertson

January 15, 2026

I was a new bride to York Road 48 years ago and Mary made me so welcome. I also had the privilege of working with her on daffodil day for many years.Mary will be sadly missed not only by her family but also the wider community. Deepest sympathy to Albert and family.

Alan Manning

January 15, 2026

Our deepest sympathy and condolences to Albert and the Dettling family.
Stratford Table Tennis Club.

Suzanne and Dan Tommasso(neeRichards)

January 14, 2026

Rest in Peace Mary, and may You be OK Albert sorry for your sad loss Mary was A lively woman you be so proud if her

Vince family

January 14, 2026

Sorry to hear the passing of Mary
We as a family first meet Mary at pioneer village Cafe when we use to hold meetings their after closing she also catered for the clubs dinners and our daughters wedding she a lovely and wounder lady and azing cook ... our love to all family

Rachael Grady

January 14, 2026

Sending sincere sympathy to the family as Mary finds peace from her battle with illness. She was a remarkable person who showed such courage and strength and has had such an impact on so many lives in our community. RIP Mary following a life of hard work and giving to others.

Bruce Knowles

January 14, 2026

Condolences to Albert and family with the passing of Mary. A very active and respected community member.

Lynda Ricketts

January 14, 2026

Deepest sympathy to David, Susan and all the Kowalewski family. Mary will be sadly missed by you all. Sorry we cannot be with you as you farewell Mary. RIP.

Michael & Helen Kowalewski

January 14, 2026

So shocked & sorry about Mary's passing, she is a cousin, neighbor, friend, family. Mary kept the family together with all the hard work she had done recording the family history.

Barbara Digby

January 14, 2026

Sorry to hear that Mary has passed away, she was such a lovely fantastic lady who would do anything for you . Rest in peace

Kelly Burkhart

January 14, 2026

Sorry to hear of Mary's passing she will be missed by all.

Chris & Kelly Burkhart

Liam & Sophie Tierney

January 14, 2026

Our sincere condolences to you all on the devastating loss of Mary, a wonderful woman who will be deeply missed.

Albert & Mary were wonderful support to our family as we grew up with all the Dettling lads on our dairy farms as youngsters. We have been blessed to keep the connections over the years & will remember Mary with the love & care she shared with us all.

We are sorry we can´t be there with you to pay our respect in person and send all our love from overseas.

Love from Liam & Sophie, Annabelle, Florence, Freddie & Dexter Tierney in West Sussex, UK

Graeme & Karen King

January 14, 2026

To Gareth and Marie .So sorry to hear the loss of a beautiful mother and mother-in-law and Nana. Words can never help with the loss of a loved one but the help and love of everyone will help you all grief.

Merv Cathy Hooper

January 14, 2026

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow. Merv and Cathy Hooper

Carol Vince

January 14, 2026

Thinking of you at this sad time Condolences to Albert and the extended family Went to High School with Mary and in later years Stratford Runners and Walkers

Fraser ward

January 14, 2026

My condolences to Albert and family,Remember Mary when at York road working for the dettlings farm Mary always was cooking a great breakfest and helping around when I could . Rest in peace Mary

Kevin Tierney

January 13, 2026

My condolences to Albert and family,remember Mary well when I was growing up, always ready to lend a hand,
Rest in peace Mary.
Kevin Tierney

Margaret Doyle

January 13, 2026

My sister cere condolances to Albert and family. I remember Mary from Passsionist Family Group. Mary was a hard worker and always had a ready smile and a laugh for everyone. Rest in Peace Mary

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Marilyn Kivell

January 12, 2026

To Albert and all your family, we are sorry to hear of Mary's passing. Our thoughts are with you all. Marilyn Kivell and Family

Adrienne Harris

January 12, 2026

On behalf of the Inglewood Cricket Club we wish to offer our sincere sympathy on the passing of a wonderful cook&caterer. The prize giving at the end of year will not be the same. R.I.P.Mary
Graham &Adrienne Harris
Patron&President I.C.C.

Maurice and Maxine Stieller

January 12, 2026

To Albert and family. We are saddened to hear of Mary´s passing. Our prayers and thoughts are with you at this

Barbara Sharpe

January 12, 2026

Remember my times working behind the counter with Mary at Hospice as a volunteer.

Vaughan & Jill Hughes

January 11, 2026

Pat, Jo and all the Dettling family. Sincere condolences in the sad loss of your family matriarch. She will always be remembered. RIP Mary

Lisa Dixon (Kowalewski)

January 11, 2026

R.I.P Aunty Mary, finally at peace. You will be sorely missed, it has been a privilege to of been your niece. A lovely, kind and caring lady. Taken too soon. xx

Kim and Glen Theyers

January 11, 2026

So sorry to hear if Mary´s passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Kay and Ian Shearer

January 11, 2026

To Albert and Families, thinking of you all on the sad loss of Mary. Take care
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Ruth Schumacher

January 11, 2026

My sincere sympathy to the Dettling and Kowalewski families in the loss of Mary.
Thinking of you all.

Lyn Hartley

January 11, 2026

Albert and family
Really saddened to hear the passing of Mary
Our prayers and thoughts are with you all at this very sad time
RIP Mary
Lyn and Peter Hartley

Daralyn Read

January 11, 2026

Dear Albert and Family, We are saddened to read that Mary has died. I have enjoyed our little catch ups over the past couple of years when getting shrubs off you both. Mary was always welcoming and helpful with a beautiful smile, of which I truly appreciated.
Our deepest sympathy to you all and we are thinking of you at this very sad time.
Love Daralyn Read (Agnew) & Roger Howells & Family

Angela Bryan (nee Espiner)

January 11, 2026

Condolences to Albert and family. So many memories from York Road life, Mary will be missed by many.

Mike Davey

January 11, 2026

Albert and family very sad to read Mary´ s passing. We had such a great relationship all the Ravensdown functions you and Mary catered for I will always remember she was a lovely person ... I will miss her laughter and infectious smile your friend. Mike. Davey

Eltham Smallbore Rifle Club

January 11, 2026

The condolences of the ESBRC to Roger and family on the sad loss of Mary. May you find peace in your memories

Jenny bisley

January 11, 2026

Thinking off all the family at this sad time. I have very special memories off Aunt Mary when we visited her on the farm many years ago till now. Rest in peace Aunt.

Rose & Peter Bayly

January 11, 2026

Very sad to read of Marys passing Albert..sending our sympathy to you and all your family at this sad time x

Lyn Taunt and family

January 11, 2026

To Albert and family sorry to hear of Mary's passing.
Thinking of you all at this sad time.

Bryce and Denise Meier-Pope

January 11, 2026

To Albert and family so sorry to read of Mary´s passing. Thinking of you all as you now navigate life without her beautiful presence. Her vibrant energy will be missed by many. Rip Mary

Pauline Stanford

January 11, 2026

So sorry to hear of your loss. Our condolences to Albert and family. Des and Pauline Stanford.

Bruce Walker Tauranga South

January 11, 2026

RIP MARY..my condolences Albert and all of the families..Part of our great Stratford Running family has now passed...

Gail and Jonathan keegan

January 11, 2026

To Albert and all the family so sorry to hear about Mary´s passing . A hard working great cook lovely kind lady Gail and Jonathan Keegan and families.RIP

Kaz

January 11, 2026

To Albert and all of the family she cherished so greatly, my love and thoughts are with you during this sad time. A lovely and special lady that I have fond memories of. RIP Mary ❤

Doug & Joanne Robinson

January 11, 2026

Special thoughts and prayers to the Dettling family. Mary was a wonderful kind lady who will be missed by so many of us. RiP Mary.

Helen Smith

January 11, 2026

Albert and family please accept my sincere condolences on the passing of Mary. I met her when I started working at St Joseph´s

Michelle Kennard

January 10, 2026

Our deepest condolences to Albert and Family. So sorry to hear of Mary's passing xox

Kerin and Aidan Schumacher

January 10, 2026

To Albert and the Dettling siblings
So sorry to read of Mary´s passing. Always nice to talk to when we met up.

Deborah Clough

January 10, 2026

Albert and family, we are so sorry to see that Mary has passed away. Mary was a neighbour, a friend and a caterer for many of our family do's. She will be very much missed by you all. Love from Stephen and Deborah Clough

Jo Stallard

January 10, 2026

Mary was a stalwart supporter of Stratford and its unique heritage. Her enthusiasm and commitment for the Stratfords of The World was undeniable.

M Y Chainey

January 10, 2026

To Albert and family
Sincere condolences to you all.
From Eric and Michelle Chainey

Alan Chainey

January 10, 2026

Albert and family
Please accept our deepest condolence with the passing of Mary
Alan ,Shelly and Rusty Chainey

Beverley Cousins

January 10, 2026

Sincere condolences Albert & Family.
Have lovely memories of Mary when we lived in Stratford. May she R.I.P. The Cousins Family

Ian & Frances Jenkins

January 10, 2026

Sending our love and support to Albert and all your family.
Keep strong for each other.
We always enjoyed your visits to us when you were staying in Turangi.
Albert if in our area please keep visiting.
RIP Mary.

Katrina Knowles

January 10, 2026

Condolences to Albert and family.
Such a spirited busy lady she will be missed by many
Katrina

Liz & Paul Sunman

January 10, 2026

Our condolences to Albert and all the family. Mary was someone we could always count on. A special Lady never to be forgotten.
Liz & Paul Sunman

Karen Jordan

January 10, 2026

Sincere condolences to the Dettling and Kowalewski family for the loss of beautiful Mary. Such a special soul leaving behind a legacy of love and family.
May she rest in peace.

Joe&Sandra Hiestand

January 10, 2026

Our condolences to Albert and family,Mary was a cousin to my cousins I new well,blessings to her family

Bron Muir

January 10, 2026

Very saddened to hear of Mary´s passing. An amazing lady who will be so missed. All our love and thoughts are with you all
Phill and Bronwyn Muir and family

Bev & Stew

January 10, 2026

Albert & families Sorry to hear about Mary. Thinking of you all at this sad time.Just remember the lovely special things you have of her .Sorry we away

Colleen & Gary Hoyle

January 10, 2026

Our thoughts and love go to Mary's family such a lovely lady may she rest in peace xx

Deborah Clough

January 10, 2026

Awww Albert and family, we are so very sorry to hear of Mary's passing. A neighbour, a friend and a caterer of many of our family do's. Rest in Peace Mary, your work is done. You will be very much missed. Stephen and Deborah Clough

Roger and Jenny Hignett

January 10, 2026

So very sorry to hear of your loss.Amazing memories you have can never be taken away.

January 14, 2026

Members of the Taranaki Swiss Club offer their deepest sympathy to Albert and family following the passing of our long-standing, loyal and supportive member, Mary. Club members please wear your costumes for a guard of honour.

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